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What Not To Wear This Thanksgiving

Ahh, Thanksgiving is here. The seemingly endless few hours where you are forced to not fight with your sister like you’re 11-years-old, where you must try to simultaneously drink enough wine to get through the evening yet not bring suspicions that you may be an alcoholic, and the day where you must listen to your grandpa’s boring stories again while feigning attention.

It would be easy to wrangle up a few fall outfits for the holiday if it wasn’t for some of these pesky above issues looming about. The possibility of a brawl, of spilled red wine and a cheaply heated home can seriously inhibit your fashion choices. However, there is hope.

1. Do not wear white. 

No white pants and no white, or otherwise lightly-colored sweaters, because you’re soon going to be so drunk that red wine is going to be spilling all over you. It’s way easier to hide a drunken stumble over a black blouse, trust me.

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Found on lookastic.com

2. Do not wear anything too revealing. 

You’re not going to the prom – you’re going to Thanksgiving, where there is pretty much a zero percent chance you’re going to meet any men unless you’re a holiday drifter and you got it right and avoided a family gathering on this special day. You don’t want anyone’s weird uncle hitting on you in a wine stupor so just bypass the whole mishap so keep the cleavage hidden.

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Found on mygoldbutteruniverse.tumblr.com

3. Do not wear anything too tight. 

You do realize this is a holiday focused on eating, right? The last thing you need is a protruding belly dipping out under your tight shirt. Ew. Please just join the rest of us and wear something classily baggy. You can thank me later.

Found on Pinterest

Found on Pinterest

4. Do not wear a skirt or dress with bare legs. 

Although this would be a pleasantly cute outfit according to Pinterest, it doesn’t work out too well in practice since it’s winter and Thanksgiving hosts like to cheap it out and crank the heat down. Put on a pair of pants.

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Found on extrapetite.com

5. Do not wear anything too bright. 

This isn’t an EDM concert – it’s Thanksgiving, and if you didn’t get the memo, it’s about pilgrims and Indians. No neon pinks, yellows or blues – scrap together some neutrals instead.

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Found on fashidea.info

How to Channel Your Creative Style Energy Into Life

As a fashion blogger and freelance fashion writer, I will say it:

Fashion isn’t everything.

Most of us do not work in fashion. We are lawyers, accountants, doctors, journalists, business owners and a million other things. We enjoy reading, hiking, bowling and movies. We go to book club on Wednesday and date night on Friday.

However, one thing that we can do is bring the joy and creative spirit from fashion into other parts of our lives as we go about our day. Even if we don’t head over to Vogue every morning at 9 a.m. and the style of our lives ends after we get dressed in the morning, the decisions and feelings that go into our fashion decisions don’t end there. Here’s how you can bring that into the rest of your day-to-day life.

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Courtesy TheyAllHateUs.com

1. When you go to the mall and you only purchase things that you really love. When was the last time you picked up a disastrously ugly shirt at the store and then decided to take it over the register? Hopefully never. Instead, you hold out for the best – that one thing that you can’t live without. Even if that means you have five pairs of jeans and four tops in your arms, you only pursue what makes you happy. This is how you should be making all decisions in your life. If it doesn’t make you excited to get up tomorrow (and get dressed…) then why are you doing it? Do what makes you happy, people.

2. When there’s a little extra strut in your step because you’re wearing your favorite outfit. Think about it. When you’re feeling your best and you’re hoping you’ll run into your ex-boyfriend that night, it’s because you’re wearing your favorite outfit – a simple piece of cloth. There is no magic in those heels or that dress. It’s all in your head. So why can’t you feel like that always? Get it in your head that you’re great, you’re beautiful, you’re smart and you’re interesting. You don’t need an item of clothing to prove it.

3. When you’re feeling pretty snazzy because you just put together an awesome new ensemble. You know when you wake up, feel a sudden pull of inspiration and you have the best outfit ever? You kind of feel like you just solved a great mystery of the world and you feel ready to take on the day. Bring this in everything you do by always trying new things. What fun is always eating the same meal, wearing the same outfit or taking on the same projects? Get creative, be courageous and try new things whenever possible.

There you have it, ladies. I know that you love to shop, you love style and you love fashion (or else you wouldn’t be reading this blog). Now, I want you to bring it to your lives.

How To Transition Your Summer Business Closet to Fall

Not all of us have a complete arsenal of fall fashion just rearing to go as soon as October comes around (although we certainly wish we did). Although we’re always more than ecstatic to pull out our fall riding boots, cozy sweaters and classic jackets, our closets can start to look pretty empty if we simply packed away all of our favorite summer and spring pieces. However, packing all that stuff away simply isn’t necessary since many pieces can easily be brought into fall. Here’s how.

1. Pair darks with lights. 

In the summer, wearing white jeans with a salmon is perfect for a workday. Unfortunately, this simply won’t work anymore once October shows its face. Instead of packing away your white or pink pieces, pair them with darker pieces instead (such as white pants with a burgundy top or light blue pants with a black top).

Photo Courtesy CaraLoren.com

Photo Courtesy CaraLoren.com

2. Throw on an interesting blazer. 

I’ve been wearing many of my summery, floral tops in the fall simply by pairing them with a classic blazer. Blazers don’t have to be boring – instead, stand out with hounds tooth, stripes or a bold color to completely transform an otherwise summertime look. Also, always remember, especially when layering, that accessories must match to pull a look together.

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Photo Courtesy Vogue.com/AU

3. Put some tights on. 

Not all dresses need to retire in the fall. Those in darker shades can follow through to fall with opaque black tights. To keep from looking like your grandma, wear solid booties or other shoes made for the autumn. Stay away from flats as well to avoid looking like a schoolgirl lost in your office.

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Photo Courtesy necessaryclothing.com

4. Accessorize with a scarf. 

Paired with a scarf and a cardigan, most tops that are in classic styles (not too summery or flowy) can transition from your spring closet to your fall. Grab a cozy scarf and tie in the way that most complements the outfit. Obviously, for sleeveless summery tops, a cardigan or other kind of laying is usually necessary to complete.

Photo Courtesy TheBerry.com

Photo Courtesy TheBerry.com

5. Utilize classic accessories. 

Summer is for all those wild and crazy accessories that your mom balks at. Fall is for classic pieces like pearls and more subdued and neutral colors. If you pair these classic accessories accordingly with more summery pieces, a summer outfit can easily transition into the autumn, no purchase necessary.

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Photo Courtesy cyndispivey.com

The Thrill of the Chase

My closet makes me feel guilty.

When I open it in the morning, although I’m surrounded by pieces that I love, I’m underwhelmed by the amount of items in there. Now that I have a double closet, this feeling is all the more evident, especially considering that I (thankfully) always have a full wallet.

Even though when shopping I’m commonly presented with clothing that I adore, I’m easily deterred by price tags. More than $20 for a dress or a pair of shoes? I figure I can find it cheaper elsewhere. I’m a creature of the hunt and I love the thrill of coming home and being presented with my bargain finds after a long journey to the mall.

However, more often than not, I leave empty handed instead, which has brought me to my bare closet. This has always made me feel kind of bad, especially when less financially savvy friends have wardrobes full of designer clothes that I crave. Always, until a funny experience in the odd world of advertising.

Before I transitioned to the editorial world, I took on a brief stint in the advertising department where I met all sorts of funny characters. One day, a large, pinky-ringed ad agency man came in to speak with an advertising rep and I. He was a boisterous, sleazy man with a bad reputation for never buying anything. Time after time, we snickered when he asked for pricing, pricing we had gave him countless times before, certainly hoping this time, he could be inclined to save just a few dollars. He never spent even one.

When he came in that day, though, he said something quite revealing: “I love the chase of a good bargain. I need to feel like I won.” 

Who knows if this guy famous for getting ad reps fired was telling the truth or just trying to deter the advertising department from figuring out sooner that the dude was never even going to buy a banner ad. Nevertheless, after that, I didn’t feel so guilty – I, too, wanted to feel like I won something from the corporate giants that are retail stores. I wanted to come home with something I had sought out and would be proud of not only for its look, but for its captured price.

I am a product of the chase, and even if it keeps my closet bare, it’ll also keep my mind at ease.

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I Hate Everything

Some people are into bathrooms. Some want a nice kitchen. I’ve always wanted a well-lit, well-organized and charming walk-in closet. I dreamed of all of my beautiful things organized and in their places for me to see each morning.

Instead, up until yesterday, I had the Closet of Nightmares – so little that my clothes had been unceremoniously stuffed into various drawers, dressers, and closets throughout the house. It all felt so wrong – pieces that I had, in some cases, spent hundreds of dollars on lay sadly on forgotten dark floors, never to be seen again.

Being that there was no new closet in sight (oh and I also moved six times last year and twice this year) I had been getting rid of an alarming amount of stuff – they were shipped to foreign sellers via eBay, hung on dirty consignment shop racks, lay on the bottom of my lucky friends’ closets, or sat in collection boxes in parking lots. God knows how much money was now wasted. Even still, with the items I was lukewarm about now finally gone, nothing still fit in my closet.

That is, until a miracle happen and I got a closet. I think my mom got fed up with my dramatics and finally convinced her ex-boyfriend (because who do you have if you don’t have an ex-boyfriend to do your handiwork for you) to install two rods in the Closet of Nightmares, giving me what could be considered two closets (which is literally two more than I had before).

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This is not mine.

All of a sudden, I had all this space! All these hangers and lights! It was like a dream. I skipped about our house and collected my belongings from the terrible corners they had been subjected to for the past few months and brought them back heroically to my room. I organized them by color (obviously), set them up neatly and prepared for the euphoria which I was sure would ensue once I realized what an astounding collections of beautiful belongings I had.

It didn’t come.

Instead, I squinted my eyes and wondered, What happened to all my stuff? How was it that this new double-closet fit for a queen was seemingly… empty?

Using my investigative gifts, I delved into my Facebook photos and scrolled through all 2000 of them. I came to a frightening conclusion – I had sold or given away literally every item I had bought before the end of last summer. Nothing in my closet had survived more than a few short months. I was a binge buyer… and cleaner.

Why was this? Was it because I’m cheap and I get off on buying crappy items before getting sick of them and chucking them out the door? Was I too easily swayed at the mall? And on top of that, why didn’t I really like the stuff I still did have either?

I explained my dilemma to my mother, who clearly did not understand me at all. She told me I was “just hating everything today” and that I shouldn’t be so quick to buy things… or to throw them away. (Mind you half of those things I had “given away” had been to her).

So it seems that I am now in need of a rather thorough shopping spree since I can count the outfits I can put together on two hands. It’s probably for the best that I live at home now.

Do you go on closet clean-out binges? Do you ever regret what you bid goodbye? How much do you have to like something to keep it?

Why You Need Pinterest For Your Virtual Closet

“Wow Pinterest? So last year.”

This was a tweet I read that made me a little sad – Pinterest? My favorite social media? So last year?! 

Even though I’m a news fiend, a tech junkie, and a fashionado, I’m definitely not trendy. I’m not great with knowing what the coolest latest trends are, I’m can’t convince myself to purchase the coolest and latest pieces, and I can barely even keep up with what everyone is wearing, probably because the only television I watch is Netflix documentaries. Sorry.

But this is precisely why I love Pinterest, the most underutulized social media in the realm – it’s like a little Twittersphere for your life; in fun little pictures. Who doesn’t love that?

Even if you’re not a blog, a website, or a business (in which you should already have a Pinterest account, but we’ll get into that later), here are a just a few reasons why you should take the three minutes needed to create an account for your closet…  and then spending hours perusing it in search of the creation of the perfect board.

It’s a sampling of the trendiest stuff on the Internet right now. Even though you wish you could be, you’re probably not at the mall at this moment, however Pinterest is like a virtual mall in the fact that it’s showing, real-time, what people are wearing right this moment. If you take a look at the Women’s Fashion board, what you’ll see if the most recent and popular pins of the moment you clicked on the link. You’ll easily see who’s wearing what, how, and when.

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You can showcase your own stuff and it will be pinned based on merit. All over Pinterest, although you will see pins by famous magazines, designers, and labels, you’ll also see some significant followings for people just like you. What does this mean? That if you put a cool outfit together, snap a pic, post it, and you’ll quickly see how the Pinterestsphere rates you in the number of repins you get. The repins don’t stop after a select amount of time like Twitter does – instead, trends reinvent themselves on Pinterest and I’m still getting repins on stuff I posted a year ago.

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It’s the best way to collect your inspiration for your outfits-to-be. Bought yourself a checked blazer you know that you want to wear but you’re not exactly how? No problem. You can just search for “checked blazer” and tons of outfits that utilized the piece are going to pop up and you can peruse through and see how you’re gonna put this baby together. That’s way better than letting it sit in your closet for six months before you figure out a way to wear it. Think of Pinterest as your personal, daily, and virtual magazine.

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You can follow all of your favorite designers, stylists and bloggers in one image-driven place. Although you can follow them on Instagram or Twitter to get snapshots of what they’re doing and chats about what they’re feeling, Pinterest is a gallery in that you can see hundreds of designs, ideas, and inspirations in one snapshot – plus you’ll get a complete view of the most recent items in your feed.

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How to Shop Like a European

I’m standing in line at the department store, my arms stuffed with bags, shoes, blouses, and jeans. Items are practically rolling out of my hands, yet now that I’m standing here thinking about opening my wallet, I’m starting to realize…

Those heels were a little tight.

I have a blouse that looks exactly like this one at home. 

This bag is a little small to fit everything I need. 

And then I glance behind me and see that there is another woman, holding one swimsuit, looking enthralled. 

How many times have you convinced yourself to buy something in the store by saying to yourself “I’ll find somewhere to wear this” or “I can afford this”? And then how many times have you found yourself shoving that same item in a bag headed for the Salvation Army six months later?

In America, we overcompensate. Instead of buying one designer, classic piece that we can wear for the rest of our lives, we buy 15 trendy tops from Forever 21 which are going to fall apart and go out of style in a matter of weeks. We end up with empty wallets and closets full of nothing to wear. However, across the pond, it doesn’t really go down like this. Instead, European women tend to opt for smaller closets full of truly interesting, timeless pieces that they knew they couldn’t live without when they stood in that line in front of the cashier. If you’re sick of throwing dollars away to cheap chain stores and clothes away to thrift stores, see below about how you can learn to shop like a European.

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  1. Keep a list handy of items you’re looking for. In the notepad on your phone, make a list of some pieces you’re on the lookout for like white jeans, a pair of brown wedges or a skinny leopard print belt. Then when you get to the mall, glance at your list so you can keep an eye out. Having a list makes you less likely to buy things you don’t really need and more likely to pick up signature pieces that you considered beforehand.
  2. Imagine three events you would wear this piece too. If you find something you like but you’re not sure if you would wear it, consider the rule of three – is there at least three separate events/locations you could wear this to? If you can’t think of three quickly (to the bar, to work, and to a BBQ) then it’s not worth it.
  3. Tell yourself you can come back later. If you’re debating an item but can’t make a 100% decision, tell yourself you’ll continue on your shopping trip and if you’re still thinking about it at the end of the day, you’ll come back. Car salesmen put pressure on people to buy right away – you don’t have to put pressure on yourself too.
  4. Ask yourself if you think you’ll be wearing this in three years. If it’s a classic, beautiful piece you  love, you’ll be sewing holes back together and getting an item dry-cleaned until the tear-stained day you have to throw it away. But if it’s something trendy and cheap, it’s going to be gone in six months. Through promotions and moves to new cities, is this something you’re going to want to have in three years?
  5. Buy what fits now, not later. Never, ever buy something with the intent to fit into it after your diet, after your workout or after the winter because it’s not going to happen. Instead, buy what fits you now and tell yourself that when the 15 is off, then you’ll reward yourself with a new pair of jeans.
  6. Think of the price in terms of how much money you make an hour. If you make $10 an hour and you’re trying to decide if that $80 dress is worth it, realize that is one entire day at work. If the dress isn’t worth the eight hours you spend slaving away at a desk, put it back on the racks and look elsewhere. Your time is valuable.
  7. Ask yourself if you can find this cheaper somewhere else. You may loooooooooove those brown gladiator sandals, but don’t you think Target may carry them too at a quarter of the price? Ask yourself if you can find this somewhere else for cheaper at a comparable level of quality. And hey, if you’re wrong, you can always come back (or scour the Internet).
  8. Consider if you can make three separate outfits with this piece. Following the rule of three referenced in Tip #2 – try to put together three separate and different outfits you could pair each piece with. If you can only pair that leather high-waisted skirt with a crop top, is it really worth it? Or is it worth it instead to go with the black sleeveless button-down you can wear with white jeans, mint pants or jean shorts?
  9. Evaluate the material. That top may be pretty, but if the material is cheaply Sears-esque and sort of itchy, you’re not going to wear it more than once. You don’t want to be aching to get out of your clothes by 5:00 pm everyday. That designer top may look like the cheap generic version, but if one is significantly more comfortable and sturdy than the other, it may be worth it.
  10. Ask yourself if it feels like you. I want to do the crop-top trend too, but the second I put one on, I feel way too exposed to go anywhere outside of my own bedroom. Even if something is trendy and cool-looking, if you feel like you’re trying to be someone else when you wear it, you’ll never put it on again.